“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! You workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb” (Psalm 139:13-15, New Living Translation)

We can take a lesson from David and meditate on how much God loves and values us. When we meditate on God’s love, we gain a greater appreciation of ourselves. The psalms of David clearly express how much he meditated on God’s unfailing love for him and His faithfulness toward him.  In the above Psalm, David acknowledged that God carefully and intentionally considered him and all the complexities of his body as he was being formed in the dark of the womb. 

To truly love ourselves, we must acknowledge that God loves us so much that He sent His Son Jesus to die for us (John 3:16). Jesus is the ultimate expression of the love of God. And He knew that He was the beloved Son of God (Matthew 3:16-17). Now we are accepted by the Father because of Jesus! We are accepted in the beloved!

There are a myriad of reasons why we sometimes feel unloved and unlovable, but God wants us know that we are infinitely and greatly loved by Him (Romans 8:35-37). Even when our feelings don’t line up, we can always go to His Word and meditate on scriptures about God’s love.

You may be thinking, “How does this help me to love myself?” When you receive God’s love by faith, you will begin to love yourself properly. Here are a few steps to get you started:

  1. Meditate on scriptures that express God’s love for us. The psalms of David full of expressions of God’s love. For example, Psalm 8:3-5 says, “When I look at the night sky and see the work of your fingers—the moon and stars that you set in place—what are mere mortals that you should think about them, human beings that you should care for them. Yet you made them only a little lower than God and crowned them with glory and honor” (New Living Translation).  Begin to ponder the fact that your heavenly Father, who created the heavens and the earth, made you a little lower than Himself and crowned you with glory and honor! 
  2. Begin to acknowledge the ways God expresses His love for you. There are many ways God shows His love for you every single day. For example, you may receive favor on your job, a financial blessing, an unexpected free gift, or a great parking space while out shopping. No matter how big or small the favor, begin to acknowledge God’s involvement in it.
  3. Like David, express God’s love for you using your gifts and talents. For example, if you have the ability to write songs, write a song expressing His love for you. Or if you can paint, paint a picture that expresses His love for you.  

  While doing these practical steps ask the Holy Spirit to guide you. Depend on Him to give you revelation of the Father’s love. Ask Him to help you love and appreciate yourself as you accept Gods love. Remember, you can’t give away something you don’t have. When you begin to love yourself properly, you will also begin to love others appropriately. Begin your discovery of love today! Your life will never be the same!